You’ve checked the boxes. You’re successful, high-functioning, and on paper, everything looks great. But privately, there is a disconnect. Maybe your relationship has lost its spark, or sexual shame is keeping you small. Maybe you are navigating the complexities of Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) and feel like you're flying without a map. Or perhaps old trauma is surfacing, making it impossible to truly relax.
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I’m Paul. I’m not here to just nod and listen; I’m here to help you do the work. As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and EMDR Specialist, I help individuals, couples, and polycules move past "surviving" and into thriving. We won’t just talk about your history; we will use targeted therapies to clear the shame and trauma from your nervous system so you can reclaim your pleasure.
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Whether you are looking to reignite intimacy, explore your identity, or heal from the past, this is a judgment-free zone. I speak fluent "human"—messy parts included. If you are ready to stop feeling stuck and start living your "SoPerfect" life, let's talk.
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Now accepting new clients for online therapy across Colorado, Kentucky, Ohio and Texas. Email or call for a free 15-minute consultation.
Paul Courtland Soper, LCSW-S, LISW-S, CST (he/him)
Our Approach
At SoPerfect Therapy, we offer a range of specialized services tailored to address diverse mental and sexual health needs and promote emotional wellness. Our practice areas include:
Trauma Recovery (EMDR)
Relationship Design & ENM
Empowering your journey towards emotional well-being. Our psychotherapy services integrate EMDR, providing a supportive path to address experiences of trauma and attachment
Creating a safe and affirming space to navigate your sexual experiences. Integrating somatic practices, we support you in cultivating a deeper understanding of your body and sensuality.
Navigating the complexities of partnership with compassion and respect. My couples therapy includes a somatic and sex focus, supporting ethical and consensual non-monogamy and all expressions of intimacy.
Cultivating deeper connections and navigating the complexities of queer relationships. Our coaching services focus on fostering healthy communication, exploring intimacy, and honoring your authentic needs and desires.
You don't have to wait for the next coaching cohort to fix your relationship. Master the logistics of Ethical Non-Monogamy today with our complete, self-paced course. An on-demand polyamory class. Featuring your own downloadable open relationship toolkit.
Looking for Relationship Coaching or ENM Education? Visit SoPerfect Coaching.
Navigate Ethical Non-Monogamy
with Confidence
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